‘Independence’ is one of most important aspects of our life. Each one of us, be it humans or animals, want to be independent by all means. To understand Independence, one needs to first understand the opposite of it, that is Dependence.
Dependency is created when we look for someone to fulfil an emotional need. There are two main categories in relationships, those we choose and those we find ourselves. The obvious choice is a relationship where we hope to find happiness and self-worth. This special relationship we choose can bring a sense of change and a feeling of wholeness in our life. But if these expectations are not met, we experience sorrow because of the feeling that we have a subtle right over the other person, for example my wife, my son, my mother et cetera.
Imagine, if we can feel whole within ourselves, how would be our relationships be then? Probably more stable and more giving.
Spirituality teaches us that we do not own anyone. When we become whole, we are less dependent, less possessive, less vulnerable and much more giving.
A wise parent today should send out into the world an independent individual, with an understanding that the child is not an extension of the parent but a spiritual being, who has the right to be free and full just like parents. This allows the child to be free to make his/her own journey. All of us also have an equal opportunity to explore a relationship with the ONE who is perfect, full, whole, and available all the time. One who is the source of energy, love and power.
So let’s connect with that ONE and free each other of unnecessary bondages to achieve supreme happiness in life.
Editor’s note: Rajyogi Brahmakumar Nikunj ji is a writer at www.brahmakumaris.com and can be reached at nikunjji@brahmakumaris.in.
